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Indian in-laws, American lifestyle
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Posted 10 months ago Does anybody else find it difficult to live up the expectations of Indian in-laws in American life? I generally am less available, have less patience and more particular about "personal space". Anyone else feeling this? |
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| Posted 10 months ago I think that everyone struggles with this. No matter what ethinicity you are. Although I do think that Indian in-laws not only want a close knit family but also great career success. They do share their disappointment and its very hard to live up to expectations. It seems like they are never happy. It woudl be nice to go over and not have to dread this conversation. |
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| Posted 10 months ago I agree that the in-law relationship one is a tricky one to begin with. But I think that American ways of thinking about relationships are vastly different and sometimes in conflict with Indian values. Like jlshah22, I think that there is a certain re-setting of expectations that needs to happen with Indian parents. For instance, when my in-laws visit, I am not expected to be welcoming them with perfectly rounded paranthas and lassi for every meal- they know I work hard, and take out meals and pitching in are part of our time together. I think that it does require a conversation though, and the support of your spouse. My in-laws are very understanding and practical, so it's less of an issue, but I know many that aren't. |